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Making Up With Your Ex Lover - 3 Things You Gotta Do First!

There can be so much exciting energy built up around making with your ex lover. It doesn't matter that the relationship ended abruptly and without notice or that it was a situation of arguments and condemnation, IF done right, it can be spectacular!  Do you know the right way?

Here's the deal. When making the decision of making up with your ex lover, at times you could have that little voice in the back of your mind that is causing you to have second thoughts on if you are make the right decision.

Truth Be Told: Due to the stress of the breakup, you may not be yourself. Psychologists tell us, this is because you are emotionally stressed and could be somewhat depressed. You could also be confused, conflicted and in anguish over all that has occurred. The feelings of wanting to grab that phone and call your ex or just swing by to say "hi", could be racking your brain right now!  Hold on, don't do it yet!

So what should you do? Experts recommend that you not react in such an impulsive way. When you are feeling those kind of out-of-control feelings, that is not the best time to make any kind of major decisions, as far as, your ex lover is concerned. If your goal is making up with your ex lover, then your focus should be on developing high quality relationship skills that you can consistently bring into the relationship over time.

Good News! Most relationships can easily restore the greatness that they once had, and even go beyond to a whole new level, if the two involved are willing to work at it 

3 Must Do Actions that you have to take, if you are considering making up with your ex lover.  

1.>   Take a time-out. In other words, you need to recoup and get yourself together. Crying is a very good thing!  Acceptance of the fact that you have broken up is critical to your healing. Don't allow room in there for being mean and resentful. Do not say and carry out actions that you will only regret later on.  Sure, you are in great pain, but it is vitally important that you show character, restraint, and superb judgment. 

2.> Think hard and ponder the events leading up to the breakup. Evaluate slowly and methodically consider, quite heavily, what was the reason for the break up in the very first place. You have to be able to clearly determine the reason(s) that caused the breakup of your relationship. This is your starting point for rebuilding it, if that is your goal. 

3.>  For personal growth and self-improvement purposes read some relationship books, listen to self help cd's to further educate yourself about the dynamics of relationship building that are essential components to developing a long-term quality relationship.  

When you have completed those 3 steps mentioned above, it is time to reach out to your ex lover and let your new attitude of forgiveness, acceptance and ease of spirit to shine brightly.  

Upon contacting your ex, let them know that you would like to meet with them and just have a conversation. Look to do something simple, such as going out for coffee or a walk in the park. The point is that you should be light and easy.   

Look for opportunities for self-expression and meaningful conversation and encourage your ex to share their thoughts, heart and mind with you. Making up with your ex lover can obviously improve your outlook on everything!  

Gradually, ease yourselves back into your relationship with a positive mindset and if you both are willing to learn, grow and become more, then you are well on your way to something quite exceptional.  

You too, can discover There is  Magic in Making Up With Your Ex Lover!